objects of one's affection

Those were just justifications, not reasons.

I’m not as appreciated as I think I deserve to be. I’m not loved as I love. However, is it anyone’s fault? Maybe there is something I could do to make myself visible. Maybe I need to find people who do see me as visible. Either way, I am not as close to them as I believe to be.

"One shouldn't be too hard on oneself when the object of one's affection returns the favor with rather less enthusiasm than one might have hoped."

--Object of My Affection

How did this happen? I was the one who led, the one with the dominating, strong personality, the one with the charm to spare. Now, I’m barely visible. Who am I anymore? And more importantly, how do I get myself back?